You can’t become a perfect parent but a better parent because you are also human being and might commit mistakes. But it’s not about perfection it’s about growing your child from different stages they go through and performing the way you like your kids to be they don’t perform by listening but implementing.
1- Take care of how your child feels
It’s all about how you behave with your child are you bossy or a loving parent. Or either you compare your child with others that might Detroit’s their self-esteem or you boost their self-esteem by appreciating who they are uniquely. They should have the feeling that they are no less than anyone. There might come anger in them if you don’t care about how they feel which needs to be addressed that you need to do to be a better parent.
2- Be a role model
In your childhood you might admire your parent to be who they are. Similarly it’s your turn to play the role to be a better parent. This needs you to have a check on yourself how your child sees what you do. In this way you need to do different tasks that are your responsibilities so that your child learns to follow them. Or if you are good at something then stick to it and achieve it this will make them proud of you and ultimately makes them to be hard working in future or from now ahead.
3- Control your anger
There is always come times when child misbehaves and disturb you while you are on phone or doing some task then first listen to them what they want instead of scolding them and priotrizing your own task more than what they want something from you. Just listen to them and respond and afterwards continue with your work. They might be going through some difficulty or they need something that they approached to you and never let a child unattended.
4- Admit your mistake
There might come time where you make mistake like you shout on your child or get angry with them or you didn’t provide something that they needed then you should realize that you were wrong and talk to your child what could be done to better the situation and admit your mistake. In this way your child will forget about it if they have been healed properly otherwise they might keep grudges that you need to avoid to be a better parent.
5- Fulfill the commitments
As the children grow they become full of demand by asking what things they require. Among those some could easily be fulfilled the others need to be taking time. If you respond them yes you would buy then convey them when you will provide only if you will fulfill it instead they would keep on asking and might not been satisfied. Only make commitments when you can fulfill to be a better parent.
6-Treat them nicely
It is very important in a group of people respect your child by do not scolding them or unveiling what they are worse at. Try to keep their bad to yourself and treat them well so it may not hurt them and they become under confident. Otherwise they won’t feel good about you even if they grew up. Such kind of situations needs to be avoided. Tell them when you are alone that what could be improve on and better not do it next time.
7- Negotiate with them
Kids are innocent they don’t know what is good for them or what is bad. So when they indulge in this and cry for what they want than you should talk to them and make a deal if you eat your dinner than we will eat ice cream. Otherwise they will keep approving by crying. You need to keep some sort of standards to discipline your child. To keep a balance between their demands and what actually is good for them.
8- Family time
Even how much you get busy at your work or your day to day routine you need to give your family some quality time when you share happiness not quarrels and fights. Keep your discussions apart and indulge with your child talk to them play with them take them out for some fun area. Kids enjoy having family time they feel sense of belonging.
9- Be caring and loving
Whatever happens but you should show your love and care to your child by expressing. Some people don’t convey their love. Either kiss your child or hug them or wave your hand on their hairs just keep on doing that it makes them feel that they have been loved and cared about. Do not make a communication gap by not showing your love to them. Use good words and caring concerns when they become hurt. In this way their heart will be happy.
10- Do not criticize more than appreciating
If you criticize your child more than you appreciate them than they might complain you that you are more over to negativity. Then you need to understand that you should remain quiet when you are feeling angry otherwise your child has to bear all your negative talk and this is injurious to them. Instead of this be a humble parent and focus over positivity appreciate your child what good they do and ultimately they will grow by it and improve themselves.
11- Let them achieve targets to earn rewards
Though children want many things that interest them but you cannot buy each and everything but still you can mold them by saying if you get good grades you will get such or such thing. This will make them focused on learning as well which is essential for their upbringing. Without any kind of reward system they will not get to know the importance of work and earn in the future. Anything that motivates them to work is worthy.
Conclusion
Your children are watching you and how you treat them counts a lot to be a better parent. It’s their time to grow when they need you the most. Be a role model for them that they feel like being like you and inspire such a living. Now you are the provider of everything they want then keep up with your responsibilities with care and love that they need the most.